Almost ten years ago, some friends of ours (Erika & me) went through a rough divorce. We’d always thought they were completely happy, and their divorce took us completely by surprise. The more we learned about their breakup, the more curious we got about the success prospects for our own relationship.
We stumbled across the book Don’t You Dare Get Married Until You Read This: The Book of Questions for Couples. We dutifully filled out our own answers in the margins of the book, and in the process, we learned a lot about each other. I was shocked at the number of issues I’d never even considered, but thankfully, almost all of our answers meshed perfectly. Almost eleven years on, we’re still happy together.
When Kim, Paul, and I started working with our lawyers to merge our businesses together into SQLskills, I was reminded so much of that book. Lawyers asked us all kinds of questions and provoked some pretty surprising discussions. We were all blown away by the kinds of things that can tear companies apart – well, all of us except the lawyers, who see this kind of thing all the time.
Along the way, we discovered things about ourselves, our businesses, and our goals – things we hadn’t even thought to ask ourselves. We unearthed situations where we had major incompatibilities, and we figured out that we might not be the best 3-some to meet at the altar. It’s better to figure this stuff out before you get in front of the priest.
I’m still going to be doing classes & consulting with Paul & Kim, but instead of joining SQLskills as an owner, I’ll be going on my own to gradually start my own brand. We’ll be friends with benefits, though. Paul says I can keep the sheep costume.